Twelve years and I still I dearly love and miss you Dad. Thanks again for having named my business Musicraft and for everything you did for us.
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That’s very nice of you!
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Thank you.
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I don’t think we ever really appreciate how much these things can affect us emotionally.
When parents have suffered ill-health there’s a natural sense of kindness when they pass, but it’s still difficult to accept.
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Spot on.
It’s only 5-6 years ago (pre-covid) for me but I’m only now (last few months) seeing how this has severely affected me from an emotional/mental health viewpoint.
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Just for balance.
I do not miss my father and I did not shed one tear at him dying or at his funeral.
My mother is dying of cancer and again I shall not shed a tear when she dies.
Reason? Too complex and do not have a place on a hifi forum.
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We are so sorry to hear that.
Trauma from parents is devastating and lifelong.
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Seems all human tragedy is here in this thread
Maybe RIP sums it up rather than personal anecdotes?
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My Dad’s birthday today he would have been 95. We lost him in 2022 to vascular dementia, he had his foibles, like us all, but we miss him.
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My parents died last summer within a few weeks of each other. Neither was unexpected. They were 94 and 90 years respectively. For years they were very frail, desperately unhappy and had effectively lost almost everything that mattered to them. They were immobile and carer dependent. They could not hear and therefore couldn’t communicate with each other, or anyone else really. The world was bewildering and a source of huge anxiety. They’d lost all their savings and finally had to leave their home when their care needs escalated further.
I was sad at their passing but they had lived long lives in the way they had chosen and had come to the end of their time. I was able to support the last few difficult years as much as practical (they lived 6 hours away) and I’m happy I did that. We were very, very different people but I always respected the safe and stable upbringing they gave my brother and I.
I guess what I feel is that the wheel of life has turned. To have wanted them to persist would have been cruel. The trick is to remember times they were happier and hold on to my positive memories too. As Alley_Cat says it can take a while to reach that place of resolution and understanding.
Don’t know if that helps anyone!
Bruce
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Without wanting to go into “rescue mode”, I found this book emotionally and intellectually a great help - still navigating the relationship with my parents, and our two sons, former tricky, latter mainly joyful! Her understanding of human imperfection when it comes to our most important relationships is impressive.
Simon
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Thank you, it stays the same, 25 years for my Dad, but good memories and remaining family.
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It’s been about four years since I lost my beloved father, who - aside from my wife - was my very my best friend in the world.
Although we had spent as much time together, as was humanly possible for father and son - over dozens of years - I still miss him like crazy.
I find this album helps me with some of the feelings I am dealing with.
But for other feelings, there is no help, and these feelings will be with me till it’s my turn… and that’s as it should be.
RIP Dad! 
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